I was talking about the gender wage gap with one of the professors in my Masters of Social work program last week between classes. To be there, I had arranged childcare, driven 45 minutes, paid a lot of money in tuition, and felt entirely rushed to return to my 2 and 4-year-old as soon as possible. So, every second must be extremely productive.
I’m not a great person to be friends with since I’m only on campus for class and then I dart home to help with dinner, bedtime, or begin to tackle loads of homework.
Back to the conversation with this professor: I was informing him of some reading I did on the impact of pornography on the sexualization of girls and women in society and how some argue that sexualization/ objectification is partly to blame for the gender wage gap. If you think about how women are portrayed predominantly as sex objects in all forms of media, then it makes sense that women wouldn’t be taken seriously in big decisions or for leadership roles. Objectification takes away person-hood and makes a person an object for another person’s pleasure. And nobody would make an object the CEO. Continue reading →
An attempt to record my words and thoughts for about an hour on a normal Wednesday morning.
“No you can’t eat that cereal when you’re sick it has too much sugar”. What should I do with the kids today, should I take them to that new soccer thing? But it’s kind of expensive. But I think it could be really good for my daughter to learn some soccer skills when she’s young because what she learns now will be so much more natural later. But will she even like soccer? I don’t think she likes it. Continue reading →
All parents learn tricks to survive the years when their children are little… and sometimes it really does take years to get to a place where you don’t feel like you’re in panic mode every second. Or is it that you just get used to panic mode? Regardless, tricks, and not the magic kind, do help. Every parent figures out what works for their family, but sometimes those insights are transferable. Continue reading →
The decision to stay home after having my first child was incredibly challenging. My job wasn’t family friendly and I don’t have family nearby to help. My daughter had colic, and she needed me. Still, I deliberated until the last-minute. And I questioned my decision almost daily during my first two years of motherhood.
When telling a friend (who is a VP at a fortune 100 company
I used to wonder “what do stay at home moms do all day?” I assumed they watched cartoons, talked on the phone, did their own thing while the kids played. Part of the reason it is so hard to know what a stay at home parent does is because every time someone asks this question the response is so full of small things that she doesn’t know how to answer it. Because she is CONSTANTLY Continue reading →
Our family of four attended a birthday party at the lone restaurant on the top of Mt. Baldy a couple of weeks ago. Riding a rickety old ski lift was the only way to get up the mountain. My husband wore our two-year old in one carrier, and I wore our 6 month old in another. They made us ride separately because you can only have two “people” per lift. Since when did a 15 lb person count? Just kidding.
So the party was crazy with two tiny people to keep track of in the midst of many full-sized people. We did a little dance, sang a little song, and it was time to ride down the mountain in the dark. Now, I live in a city where I often get honked at because I forget to turn my headlights on at night. There are so many lights all around me that I don’t even notice. But Mt. Baldy is in the wild wilderness compared to my home.
If, like me, your stay-at-home mom you may have anxiety about what sort of job you would be qualified for after being out of the market for years. My husband goes to work and learns how to manage people and complex projects while I’m at home cleaning up pee. If only that would give me a résumé boost. Continue reading →